Why would you even stay on my blog if my content disgusts you? And of all the posts I have that you’d have a problem with, you pick some bows with bright colors to whine about? Also, I am not genderfluid to “lash out” at anyone. I’m not out to any of my family, so the expression of my identity has absolutely nothing to do with them (they don’t even know about it). But the kind of mentality you have (or at least purport to have—I wouldn’t be surprised if you were a troll, especially considering your url) that gender identity is a product of being raised “badly” is a common and harmful idea that pathologizes trans people. There are still people who have the same ideas about gay and bi people (that you’re gay or bi because your family raised you wrong). In fact, my mom thought that was the case for awhile after I came out as bisexual. I wouldn’t be surprised if you also held beliefs like that about sexual orientation. If you don’t, I guarantee you would have a two decades or so ago if you were alive at the time. The ideas you espouse here about gender are also outdated, and with time they’ll become increasingly unacceptable (basically you’re on the wrong side of history on this one).
But the funniest part about people like you is that you don’t seem to have any clue about how gender variant people have existed in many cultures all over the world for centuries. You see gender variant people in Ancient Egypt, the Roman Empire—you have people of various genders cropping up in many cultures including Native Americans, Samoans, and many African cultures. I highly doubt these people were all “rebelling” against “bad households” by “making up genders”—especially when you consider that these various gender identities were widely accepted in these cultures.
I recently saw a very touching youtube series by a trans woman documenting her experiences with transition and her coming out to her parents, who accepted her immediately and were incredibly loving and supportive. It was one of the best coming out experiences I had ever seen and she was so happy—she definitely did not seem as if her gender was an attempt to “lash out” at anyone—if so, then she was incredibly happy about a failure since it made her parents and her closer than ever. Unfortunately, her experience is rare due to how much discrimination there is. If only that were the norm.
Instead, people like you have trans children and carry ideas like this and abuse their trans children. They drive their children like Leelah Alcorn to commit suicide because they see trans identities as a perversion, sin, phase, or otherwise illegitimate. You have it exactly backwards. Trans people do not “become” trans in reaction to abusive households, many households become abusive in reaction to kids being trans due to transphobia and misinformation.
Honestly, if you think trans and genderqueer people is some teenybopper trend invented on tumblr, you are wrong. There have always been gender variant people. The term genderqueer existed before tumblr even existed. I originally identified as genderqueer before I even knew about tumblr. You’re just ignorant, honestly. You also seem like an insufferable, callous person. But honestly, it’s no sweat off my back because nothing you people say can shock me. It comes to no surprise me how much people like you hate trans people. I don’t know why you think that when you send asks like this it will make a big impact. It’s just radio static in a culture that tells us the exact same things you’re saying. You’re not special for regurgitating cultural norms that we’ve all been spoon fed our entire lives. Just because some bloggers on tumblr disagree with you doesn’t make you edgy. The way people like you obsess over what we say and do on here, in fact, makes you pathetic.
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